Attachment Therapy
Healing the Relational Patterns That Shape How You Love, Connect & Trust
Online sessions across BC, Alberta, Ontario, Nova Scotia & The Yukon
Knowing your attachment style isn't the same as changing it.
Maybe you've read the books.
Taken the quizzes.
You know whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between.
You can trace the patterns back to childhood and explain exactly why they developed.
And still...
You find yourself reaching when someone pulls away.
Shutting down when closeness feels too vulnerable.
Losing yourself to keep the relationship.
Choosing familiar dynamics even when you know they hurt.
Understanding your attachment style is an important beginning.
Healing asks something more.
What Is Attachment Therapy?
Attachment therapy explores how your earliest relationships shaped your expectations of love, safety, connection, and belonging.
Those early experiences don't determine your future.
But they do influence how your nervous system learned to respond when relationships feel uncertain.
You may have learned to become hypervigilant to signs of rejection.
To rely only on yourself.
To hide your needs.
To stay small.
To work hard for love.
These aren't personality types or permanent identities.
They're adaptive strategies that developed within relationships—and they can change through new relational experiences.
What Attachment Therapy Can Help With
Attachment-informed therapy can be particularly helpful for:
Relationship patterns that seem to repeat despite your best intentions.
Fear of abandonment or chronic anxiety in relationships.
Difficulty trusting others, or yourself.
Avoiding closeness or feeling overwhelmed by intimacy.
People-pleasing and losing yourself in relationships.
Recovering after painful relationships, betrayal, or divorce.
Building greater security, self-trust, and mutual connection.
How Attachment Healing Happens
One of the biggest misconceptions about attachment is that understanding your attachment style is enough to change it.
Insight matters.
But attachment patterns aren't changed by insight alone.
They're shaped through experience.
Healing happens when your nervous system begins having new experiences of safety, consistency, and connection.
In therapy, the relationship itself becomes part of that process.
Being met with curiosity rather than judgment.
Having your needs acknowledged rather than dismissed.
Experiencing moments of rupture and repair instead of disconnection or abandonment.
Over time, your nervous system begins learning something new.
Not because you've thought differently.
Because you've experienced something different.
How I Work
Attachment theory is woven throughout my work alongside NARM, IFS, somatic therapy, and EMDR.
Together, these approaches help us understand not only your relationship patterns, but the protective strategies, nervous system responses, and identity beliefs that developed within those relationships.
This work is relational by nature.
The therapeutic relationship isn't separate from the healing.
It's one of the places healing happens.
Together, we create an environment where new ways of relating—to yourself and to others—can gradually become possible.
Is Attachment Therapy Right for You?
Attachment therapy may be a good fit if:
You understand your relationship patterns but still feel caught in them.
You long for connection but something keeps getting in the way.
Relationships leave you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, distant, or alone.
You want more than insight, you want your relationships to actually feel different.
You're looking for therapy that addresses the roots of relational patterns rather than simply helping you manage them.
Relationships taught your nervous system many of its earliest lessons about safety.
Relationships can also become part of how those lessons begin to change.