Relationship Patterns & Attachment
Depth-Oriented Somatic Therapy for Relational Patterns and Attachment Wounds
Online sessions across BC, Alberta, Ontario, Nova Scotia & The Yukon
You know how to love. And something keeps getting in the way.
Maybe you've just come out of another relationship that started with so much promise — and ended the same way the last one did. Maybe you've been single longer than you expected, and you can't quite figure out why. Maybe you keep almost-getting-there, drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable, or finding that real intimacy seems to collapse right when it starts to deepen.
You're self-aware. You've probably read the books, know your attachment style, maybe even done therapy. And still — the pattern persists.
This isn't a willpower problem. It isn't that you're too much, or not enough, or fundamentally unlovable. It's that the patterns keeping you stuck in love were written long before you had a choice — in your nervous system, your earliest relationships, the ways you learned to stay safe.
You might recognize yourself here
You keep attracting emotionally unavailable people — and you don't know why you stay
You find yourself anxious and hypervigilant in relationships, or avoidant when things get close
You give everything in relationships and still end up feeling unseen
You've broken up and gotten back together more times than you can count
You want intimacy but something in you pulls back right when it arrives
You're great at connection — until it starts to matter
You can explain your attachment patterns clearly. And yet you're still living inside them.
This isn't about finding the right person. It's about becoming available to love.
Most approaches to this pain focus on strategy — how to date better, communicate better, choose better. But if the pattern is living in your nervous system and your relational history, strategy only goes so far.
This work goes to the root. We look at what love came to mean in your earliest relationships — how you learned to attach, to protect yourself, to stay connected or cut off.
We work with the parts of you still operating from those early decisions. And we bring the body in — because attachment patterns don't just live in your thoughts. They live in how you breathe when someone gets close. In the tightening in your chest when you need something. In the way you disappear when you're overwhelmed.
This is where insight becomes embodied change.
What we might explore together
Every person's relational history is unique. Our work follows your pace, your nervous system, and what's most alive for you.
We might explore:
Early attachment wounds and how they're shaping your present relationships
The anxious-avoidant cycle — whether you're caught in it with a partner, or within yourself
Grief from relationships that mattered — breakups, divorce, the almost-relationships
The parts of you that long for love and the parts that are terrified of it
Patterns of over-giving, self-abandonment, or choosing partners who can't meet you
What safety, intimacy, and secure love could actually feel like in your body
what becomes possible
Before…
You end up in the same relationship wearing a different face. You give everything and still feel unseen. Intimacy arrives and something in you pulls away. You understand your patterns — and you're still living inside them. Love feels like something that happens to other people.
After…
You recognize the pattern before it pulls you under. You stop abandoning yourself to keep someone close. Intimacy feels like something you can stay inside — not something to survive. You stop choosing people who can't meet you. Love stops feeling like a wound waiting to happen — and starts feeling possible.
how i work
Attachment patterns don't live in your thoughts. They live in your body — in how you reach, brace, or disappear when love gets close.
This work is attachment-informed, somatic, and parts-based — which means we're not just talking about your relationships, we're working with the nervous system patterns, early relational wounds, and the parts of you still operating from old survival strategies. We look at how your earliest bonds shaped your blueprint for love — and where that blueprint is keeping you stuck.
My approach is also informed by years of training in couples and relationship therapy — which means I understand relational dynamics not just theoretically, but from having sat with them up close. I draw from IFS, NARM, somatic therapy, attachment theory, and EMDR — always following your pace and readiness.
Ready to begin?
Here’s how we can work together:
Individual
Therapy
Ongoing depth-oriented somatic therapy for attachment wounds, relational patterns, and love.
EMDR
Intensives
Extended sessions for deeper processing — without the start-stop rhythm of weekly therapy.
Psychedelic
Integration
Grounded support before and after expanded states. Process what emerged and integrate the experience into your daily life.
FAQs
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Because attraction isn't random — it's patterned. What feels familiar, what feels like chemistry, what feels like home — all of it was shaped by your earliest experiences of love and connection. Your nervous system is drawn to what it knows, even when what it knows hasn't been good for you. This work helps you understand and shift that pattern at the root — not just intellectually, but in your body and your nervous system.
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Understanding your attachment style is a starting point — not a destination. Knowing you're anxiously attached or that you choose avoidant partners doesn't automatically change how you feel when someone pulls away, or why you abandon yourself to keep someone close. That's because attachment patterns don't live in your thoughts — they live in your nervous system. This work goes where insight alone can't reach.
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No. There is nothing wrong with you. What's happening is that a part of you — shaped long before you had a choice — is running a pattern that made sense once and is now getting in the way. The longing you feel for love is healthy and real. The obstacles are old survival strategies, not character flaws. This is exactly what depth therapy is designed to address.
You don't have to keep ending up in the same place.
If something in this page named the ache you’ve been carrying — that's worth paying attention to.